Guest Blogger: Saturday Semantics by Elusive Orchid

MGF's, Ms. Lily is gone for the week, jetsetting like a proper Girl Friday should, so I will be taking over the posting of the blog until she returns. This week will consist entirely of guest bloggers. I hope everyone has a laugh or two and hopefully some of the posts will provoke a few thoughts as well. Hope everyone enjoys. ~ASilky

I was out on Saturday night at one of my usual haunts, hanging with one of my best friends and a few other girls, a typical girl’s night out. We were at a bar/dance club that can be really cool….or not, depending on the crowd we encounter on any given night. Now typically I love the bar “scene” mainly because I love to people watch. I’m not there to get picked up or pick up someone, I’m simply there to hang with my girls.

This night was like most others, it started off slowly and picked up pace as the night wore on. I watched as drink after drink was poured and consumed and various people’s inhibitions fell away. By the time 1:30am rolled around there were 5 girls dancing on top of the bar in front of me. Now, I’m not a top of the bar dancing type of girl. The dance floor and catwalk…sure, but the top of the bar, not so much. I don’t like to be the center of attention in that way.

The funny thing is that while I watched these particular women losing their inhibitions, I found that other people, both men and women, seemed to retreat into themselves. Now I for one am all for talking to the stranger next to me, I’ve had some great conversations ranging from favorite drinks to the meaning of life (granted typically it was the drunken meaning of life, but the meaning of life nevertheless).

I love getting people’s perspectives on all sorts of subjects and if they want to talk and approach in a polite way I have no qualms conversing with them. What I do have a problem with are people that will stare at me and not have the balls to come up and at the very least say hello. If I’m that interesting or intriguing that someone needs to stare at me all night, at minimal, they could introduce themselves.

I’m also not a fan of cheesy or stupid lines. I had one guy eye me up and down and say “Hey baby.” Ummmm yeah that’s so not working. I simply looked him in the eye, raised an eyebrow and walked away. Simple intelligence goes a long way fellas, you might want to try it some day. Baby, sweetheart, hottie, sexy and other words like this are not going to catch my attention except maybe in a negative way.

Very few people in my life can get away with calling me these kinds of “pet” names. They damn sure better know me extremely well or they better be more charming and charismatic than Charles Manson. If you don’t know me, don’t try it…you’ll most likely get shot down.

Now I have encountered a few men who will catch my attention. They’ll typically do one of two things. They will either come right over with no pretense and say, “Hi my name is….” and we’ll go from there or they are outrageously good at flirting. They’ll sit across the bar, restaurant or wherever, flash a charming smile, or something like that and eventually come over. If they intrigue me enough I’m just as likely to walk over to them and introduce myself.

The point is this, action. I’m an action kind of girl, when I see something I want, I’ll go for it. I have nothing to lose. What’s life without taking a few risks? My friends always tell me I’m boldly adventurous and have a wild streak. My parents have always called me their “wild” child. I suppose I am those things and much more (don’t get me started on my college days away from home).

I don’t want to talk to someone who just sits in a corner, hell they probably don’t even know how to carry on a conversation (if it ever gets to that stage). I like a confident, laid back kind of person, someone who is comfortable in their own skin and can laugh at themselves. I like someone with an adventurous streak who isn’t afraid to try new things. But mainly I like someone who can carry on an intelligent conversation, has a sense of humor and can cover a myriad of topics.

I’ll fully admit semantics is a turn on. I’m a word geek. If you are a man and can carry on a great conversation imbued with humor and intelligence, looks are secondary (I can only hope this is true for men in my position with regards to women). Not that a good looking man is a bad thing. But I find that looks can only get a person so far. I guess too, that after being in so many bars and encountering so many men that only seem attracted to my looks, I’m finding that this type of cat and mouse game gets old very quickly.

Granted, I understand that physical attraction is the first thing that draws most people together, but there is so much more to be discovered. Though physical attraction is great for a one-nighter, it will not hold a relationship together, provided that is what one is looking for (in this case I don’t necessarily recommend a bar). People are multi-faceted and I find it a great adventure to discover as much as I can about the person I am conversing with, gender not withstanding.

So needless to say, though I had a blast hanging with my girls and living it up a little….I’m sad to report Saturday semantics were sorely lacking on this night.