BrownSuga’s Sweet Spot: A new career goal?

For the past 3 to 4 weeks, I’ve been in a small (well not really…it’s actually kinda big….ok it’s big….really big) transition period. A couple of months ago, I celebrated a year of being in business officially and like I said before that was a time to reflect. Like most CEOs and people in general, I made lots of mistakes my first year. And yes I wanted to believe I would be the exception to the rule and not make any mistakes and become an overnight success…

Did you finish laughing?

What I am trying to do is really learn from them and hope not to make the same mistakes twice. So for the last month or so I’ve done nothing but brainstorm. Create new ideas. Do test cases AND make more mistakes. The logistics of it all isn’t important. Well it’s important to me but not to this blog. But what did cross my mind was for about a month I “switched” careers.

Ever since I was little, I wanted to be lots of things; a chef (still plan to go to culinary arts school), a pilot (still plan to take lessons), the first black woman on the US Supreme Court (I’m still contemplating going to law school) and an astronaut (I no longer want to do that). The one thing I knew I didn’t want to do was be a stay at home mom. Now before anyone jumps down my throat, I have absolutely nothing against those that want to be stay at home moms or stay at home wives. It just wasn’t for me (but then again I never wanted to own my own business either).

But for a little bit of time, I was a stay at home wife. Although I had work to do, it didn’t require me to leave my house. *whispers* some days I didn’t even get out of my pajamas. I got the chance to do what I wanted to do. I slept in till 9:00am. I read about 50 books. I even watched a bit of television. I cooked dinner. I cleaned. I did the laundry (ok it was only once, but I did it). And in the midst of all this, I worked. And I wanted to pull my hair out by day 2.

One night while getting ready for bed, I said to my husband, “I’m going to be a stay at home wife.” He laughed.

And laughed.

And laughed some more.

If you knew me, you’d know why. I don’t know how to stay at home. If we had kids I think it would be completely different. Not saying I’d be a stay at home mom. But it would be different than not having kids.

All this to say, I have a different respect for women (or men) who choose to stay home, just like doctors, I don’t know how one does it. It’s definitely not for me. And after this weekend I’ll completely get back into my business full time. Transition periods are SO helpful. I look forward to them. I can’t wait to see what the next one brings. And like my mom has always told me. Everything is an experience. Enjoy it and know it won’t last forever if you don’t want it to.