BrownSuga’s sweet spot: Oops…I did it again

No this blog is not about Britney Spears (although I’m happy she woke up and kicked K-fed out of bed , she replaced him with what I’d consider a bigger embarrassment to my age group, Paris Hilton. Take Rosie up on her offer and move in with her, you and your two babies need serious help. You do remember you have children, right?) but in actuality about mistakes.

Last night while contemplating my life, I started thinking about some failures I’ve had and some mistakes I’ve made. I don’t regret any of the decisions I’ve made. Each failure and mistake as well as each success has been an incredible learning experience for me. But like any lesson learned, I want to take from it something I can use later in life. So for me I’ve had one “major” failure. I don’t talk about it to anyone. In fact I can bet no one but God, myself and Jennifer knows about this failure and even Jennifer, I’m sure has forgotten about it by now.

I do think about it frequently. I wonder how my life would be if that failure hadn’t happened. It was big enough to alter just about every aspect of my life. So I think it’s common to still ponder.

But more importantly, today I took the first step to change that. One step at a time is what they say. If things don’t change or I can’t find a success from this particular failure in this particular way, I won’t be mad or disappointed. I will reevaluate again and decide if I feel it is worth it to try again.

So do you have any “failures” or mistakes that you’d like to work on? They might not be failures by your definition. I use the term because that is how I look at my situation. For each person it will differ.

At 25, I know there will be more mistakes made. I hope that I will always be willing to learn from them. I don’t claim to know everything. In fact I enjoy learning things I don’t know. One day I truly hope to know myself. I’m positive I don’t know everything yet. It took my mother over 40 years to truly know herself. Oprah Winfrey, Patti LaBelle, Ellen Burstyn and Sheryl Crow have all realized that it took them well into their 40s and for some into their 50s before being their real self became something they were proud of and able to do. Sometimes I think it’s a shame that we are almost forced by society to make such huge decisions (i.e. going to college, getting married, having children, picking a career) at a time when who we are isn’t really defined.

We make mistakes. Sometimes they are big, sometimes the mistakes are small. But did you learn from the mistake and will you take the steps to change them?